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Healthy Relationships Begin With Self-Awareness.
Your attachment, values, and needs shape how you show up in relationships. Once you understand them, you can stop repeating old patterns and create something new. Let’s Get Into IT! 👇🏾
Attachment: How You Relate
Your attachment style is the pattern you developed for how you connect, trust, and seek closeness in relationships. Take the quiz and come back to this page for more insights.
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Want to learn how attachment, values, and needs all work together in dating?
The Lovers & Friends Guide will walk you through:
The 4 attachment styles in modern dating
How to identify your core values
How to meet your own needs and voice what a partner can provide.
Values: What Matters Most
Values are what you won’t compromise on in love or life. Here’s how to spot them. Ask yourself: What are my 2–3 non-negotiable values in a relationship?
Example:
Value family → need regular time with loved ones.
Value growth → need encouragement to learn.
Value health → need shared wellness habits.
Needs: What Makes You Feel Secure
Needs are the everyday ways you feel safe and cared for.
The work is learning to:
Meet your own needs (self-soothing, self-care, grounding).
Name the needs a partner can meet (consistency, respect, connection).
Security comes when you can do both: care for yourself and communicate clearly with others.